Mom gets 7-month-old daughter banned from daycare after being mean to male daycare worker

Advertisement
  • A group of small nursery school children with man teacher sitting on the floor indoors during a lesson
  • Am I the bad guy for telling my wife that she will be driving the extra distance since she is the one that got our daughter banned from daycare?

    My wife and I have had our first kid about 7 months ago. We are both back to work and our daughter (Kelly) has been going to a daycare by our house for a few months.
  • The daycare place is great, they send a lot of texts constantly. Things like what is happening that day, like bathroom, feeding, tummy time and so on.
  • Baby in green shirt lying on her stomach on pink and white striped bed
  • They all come from the same app but you can see which provider does what. This is where the issue started.
  • I always did drop off at the beginning (just easier for our schedules). One of the main workers is Sam.
  • My wife loved Sam, she always said that Sam was really informative about texts and any questions.
  • Sam only works the morning shift, and another employee was there when my wife picked up Kelly.
  • A group of small nursery school children with female teacher on floor in classroom playing
  • Sam is man. Always been. About a month ago, my wife dropped off Kelly in the morning and learned Sam was a man and not a woman.
  • She was shocked and I was confused that she didn't realize. After that she became critical of everything Sam texted.
  • I told her to stop but she didn't listen and claimed she was protecting our kid.
  • Two week she did formal complaint against him for nothing. She complained about him not giving text messages.
  • We got called in and they told us they are not having Kelly anymore. That their staff is important to them and they don't tolerate this type of behavior.
  • So our new daycare is the opposite side from my work. It would be an extra 45 mins for me to drop off our
  • My wife is only an extra 20 mins. I told her she needs to take our daughter to daycare and we got into an argument.
  • I told her this is here fault in the first place and she claims I am being unfair and she doens wish to change her morning schedule
  • Spallanzani333 You're being way too chill about this. What she did is wrong. It's not overprotective, it's unhinged. She didn't even think of Sam as a human being. The hormonal effects and stress may have made her freak out internally, but she's an adult and should have been able to work through the emotions. Making the deliberate choice to lie about Sam and potentially get him. fired, that's not excusable or normal.
  • dutchie 1966 NTA. Your wife's schedule needs to change anyway as she has to fit in therapy as well.
  • harristusc NTA thank goodness the employer protected Sam.
  • International-Fee255 NTA As a childcare provider and someone who studied men in childcare (and of course, peoples opposition to it), your child wasn't at any more risk with Sam than a female childcare provider. Your wife has some issues she needs to deal with. And yes she should absolutely be doing the extra driving, she's the reason this all happened.
  • Spallanzani333 NTA and I would be having serious second thoughts about being with her if this is how she is going to treat people. She straight up lied and could have gotten him fired. Men in education deal with so much sh as it is, they don't need to be stereotyped or mistreated because they're male. Having a baby doesn't give her the right to treat people that way.
  • dryadduinath nta. not only because she caused this, but because you would spend more than twice as long doing this than she would. i would be very angry about this if i were you. starting with her harassing someone just trying to do their job (and doing it very well, sounds like), with a detour through outdated and sexist ideas about who can care for children, and stopping firmly at how incredibly selfish it is to expect you to go so far out of your way because she doesn't want to change her sch

Tags

Scroll Down For The Next Article